The Dancing Flames of Fate
"Don't be afraid to take a big step. You can't cross a chasm in two small jumps."
~ David Lloyd George
Wildfire pauses at the top of a hill, as if unsure which direction to take. Then it creeps forward, down the opposite slope, its lightning speed slowed to a crawl, but the threat of destruction still precedes its progress.
Wildfire soaring against the dark of night brings fear. Safety is gone. The future is uncertain. Every part of life can be transformed in mere minutes--or left exactly as it is. Only the whim of the dancing flames determines fate.
Wildfire scorches. It purifies. It transforms. But isn't that true of life itself? Each moment has the potential to race out of control, searing our souls and leaving a stark landscape behind.
In Embracing Uncertainty, Susan Jefferies Ph.D. advises to consider the possibilities before us. "Each moment, each day, each age, each experience--good or bad--brings its own challenges and its own wonderment as to how it will all unfold. The trick is to learn to love the uncertainty of it all...to find, at last, the great satisfaction, the great joy and the great opportunity that lies within the uncertainty. Making the choice to live a life filled with excitement and possibility is the first step. Helping you take the next step...and the next...and the next..is what embracing uncertainty is all about."
When events devastate us, we have a choice: sit amid the ashes or move beyond the smoking ruins. Usually, we do the former before we can do the latter. The ashes represent our past, our life's work, our achievements. These aren't easy to leave behind, even when the catastrophe is already upon us. Our past, our selves. How do we separate them?
"Many of us are afraid to let go of our story even when they no longer serve us, for fear that we won't know ourselves without them. 'Who would I be without my story' we ask. 'I'm scared I won't know myself.' I say hooray that you won't know yourself! If is so exciting not to know yourself. The self you know is a limited part--a tiny speck--of who you really are. It is like a single pane in a huge kaleidoscope filled with thousand of colors....you are a thousand jubilant colors, all intertwined and dancing to create magical images. Every time you turn the kaleidoscope in a different way, a whole new worlds opens up to you." Debbie Ford writes in The Secret of the Shadows: The Power of Owning your Whole Story
Fire can bring disaster, defeating us with its searing heat, or it can purify, invigorating us with new energy. Either way, it is a catalyst to a new life. Which life that will be is our choice.
"I'd like to suggest a sizzling, soaring, blood-pumping, pulse-racing, high-flying alternative. What if you were to embrace uncertainty? What if you were to see this state of groundlessness as a good thing? What if, for the first time, you allowed yourself not to know the future, to assume the role of adventurer in your own life?" Gail Blanke asks in Between Trapezes: Flying into a New Life with the Greatest of Ease. " Isn't the whole point of a great adventure that you don't know the outcome and that anything can happen? Isn't that why adventures are so intrinsically thrilling? There is, I believe, a glorious side to being in-between, and I am here to help you celebrate it. For from being a period to endure, between trapeze moments can actually be the most invigorating, most fulfilling times of your life. When you allow yourself to now know the future, that's when you find your edge."
When the wildfires in your life pause, and pause they will, your choice will be near. Will you sit amid the ashes of the past or leap across empty chasms to a new life? Will you dare to sieze the moments between the trapezes? Like wildfire, our speed may slow to a crawl while we decide on a new direction, but eventually we will choose progress. Cleansed by the dancing flames of fate, we can embrace the future, whatever it may bring.
By Loretta Kemsley
Women Artists and Writers International
Writer, Editor and Editorial Coach
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